What if women make the first move?
Many of us women have heard that initiating the first move is “unladylike.” In our country, men typically make the first move when initiating a relationship. But why can’t women start a conversation more often? What if women make the first move?
What Culture says…
Relationship development is influenced by culture and tradition. It is expected of us that men should approach women first. In the Hindustan Times, psychiatrist Gittanjali Saxena claims that men are typically given the task of striking up a conversation and acting as the center of attention when it comes to socializing.
“Men by nature will always go out and make the first move,” she asserts. Women who have been taught to wait for men to initiate contact are inhibited by this. Another concern is that if a woman initiates, she will be looked down upon. Women could also worry that they’ll come out as forceful and unladylike.
But as more and more women become financially and emotionally independent, there are no longer any gender-specific responsibilities because of the societal changes that are currently taking place. Additionally, their freedom is enabling them to take initiative and make decisions. Relationship norms are also evolving. Making the first move is not improper for a girl.
What if I make the first move?
Women initiate contact with potential partners on dating apps like Bumble. The feminist dating app Bumble positions itself as being created to uplift women. The purpose of Bumble, according to its website, was to “disrupt the outmoded rules of dating” by asking women to initiate contact with males they match with.
Jon Birger writes in his book “Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating and Why Women are In Charge” that “It’s okay to ask someone out on a first date.” Not only is it okay, but making a proposal is advantageous.
Making the first move would increase your chances of finding the Love you wanted and could give you more confidence as well, according to an article.
A 2018 study found that when women make the first move, they had more pleasurable sexual interactions, according to a study published in Personality and Individual Differences. But women who work for their goals also benefit in ways that go beyond romantic relationships. Studies show that in relation to common matching situations like dating, work, admission to a school, etc. The initiating party typically has a better experience than the one being matched.
In general, the stigma against women is changing for the benefit of society as the world changes. Making the first move can be daunting, but trust me, it’s worth it. What’s worse is passing up a wonderful opportunity because you were too shy to say Hi.
