Behind the glitz and glamour, beauty queens had learning experiences when it comes to their relationships. No relationship is perfect — both in the personal or the career sphere. While there are some who enjoy their healthy relationship with their loved ones, there are still some who are stuck in a toxic relationship that makes them feel drained, depleted, and sometimes even distraught.
We all know that Miss Universe 2015 Pia Wurtzbach has a happy relationship with his boyfriend, Scottish businessman Jeremy Jauncey. However, years ago, her past romantic relationship had taught her something really important. In another episode of the “Between Us Queens” podcast with Carla Lizardo and Bianca Guidotti, she talked about her “crazy breakup story” that happened before she became a beauty queen.
Pia Wurtzbach recalled a past toxic relationship that left her with only P100 in her wallet. In fact, she admitted being ‘very submissive’ to unnamed ex-BF
“Before this whole pageant thing that I did, before Miss Universe, before Binibini, I was a very different person as in under ako sa lalaki,” Pia said.
“Kung ano sabihin niya, ‘yun masusunod. Hindi ako lalaban kahit alam kong mali. I didn’t really have a voice. I was that kind of girl. I was very submissive,” she added.
As a matter of fact, there were times she picked the guy over her career and even over hanging out with friends and family.
“As in naging mundo ko siya,” she said.
“I gave a lot of things. I gave up my career. I stopped doing the jobs that I was doing, which also meant I didn’t have an income. So I had nothing.”
“‘Pag di siya approve doon sa girl friends mo, sa barkada mo, parang di ka na rin sasama. He kind of became the boss of me, of everything. Pagka mayroon siyang hindi gusto sa mga decisions ko, siyempre siya ang nasusunod.”
Luckily, Pia had her younger sister, Sarah, who played a huge role in making her realize it was time to break free.
“One day she was able to convince me what I was getting myself into was totally wrong.
“Siya ‘yung gumising sa ‘kin.”
“One day I just woke up and I realized I didn’t want this anymore. One day I just woke up and I left.”
Initially, the unnamed guy tried to convince Pia and to sort things out, but she decided to leave the guy and continue with her life.
“At that time I was staying with him. I did have my own place but that was one of the things I gave up. I had to ask a friend if I could sleepover muna for a few weeks before I found my way kasi wala akong mapupuntahan,” Pia said.
“I just remember packing whatever I could, getting into my friend’s car and only having 100 pesos in my wallet.
“Wala akong pera. Wala akong trabaho. Wala lahat. And I had to rebuild myself again from zero.
Unlike some “crazy breakup story”, Pia’s experience wasn’t a big fight, but rather a “gradual decaying of your soul.”
“That was a big learning experience for me na hindi pwedeng Yes Girl tayo palagi.”
Girls, don’t settle for less. You deserve someone who makes you feel secure, happy, cared for, respected, and free to be yourself. When you feel like you are forced to compromise for the sake of your relationship, then it’s time to let go and move forward. You have to have a backbone, girl!