Three steps in Moving On
At a certain point in our lives, we felt devastated, we experienced the worst heartbreak. We lost, and sometimes, we lost so hard. We grieved for our broken hearts. Pain, and in whatever ways it may be, we felt it. With such things that happened, no choice was left but to deal with the fact that they occurred.
With such agony, we did everything to combat our demons. Sometimes we win, but most of the time, we lose. It is as if the world and everyone in it is conspiring to make us feel and be that way. But worry no more, for there is still a way to consolidate the pieces of our broken hearts. There are still steps in moving on from these kinds of pain.
Moving On Step 1: Acknowledging whatever haunts you
These things that have been haunting us since day one, only us know what they really are. With that, we ought to know well whatever haunts us and acknowledge its very existence. As Sun Tzu said, “Know the enemy and know yourself, in a hundred battles you will never peril.” True enough, these things are our enemies. They trapped us in the dark corners of the room, never allowing us to witness the daylight. Not anytime soon!
But like anything else, there is still a way. It is normal to fear whatever haunts us. But we ought to battle it someday, and that day is today. Do not deny, but do the exact opposite thing! Admit that these kinds of fear and pain exist and acknowledge their unneeded presence.
Moving On Step 2: Be Ready to Battle
After acknowledging and knowing your enemy, facing it head-on comes next. In this step, we will muster all the strength and whatever is left within us. We will badly need it, for the enemy sure is strong. But despite its strength, it will never succeed. It is because we know our enemies well, and we know how to deal with them.
No matter how painful this may get, we must not falter. We will never be in peril if we come prepared for what it may bring to the table. This is the time when we should stand firmer than ever.
But despite these preparations, there is no certainty that we will not fail. There is still a chance of failing. But worry not, for failing does not equate to being in peril. And if we ever fail, then be it. At least we tried!
Moving On Step 3: Acceptance
Win or lose, it does not matter. This step is about accepting whatever the results are. In this phase, we realize we are in a new place, somewhere we have never been before. And somehow, this place brings comfort. Acceptance does not totally equate to forgetting or forgiving. This is a false dichotomy one is ought to avoid.
This last step is more on making yourself at peace, with or without our demon’s presence. And the moment we accept the reality, that is the only way we can move on from whatever haunts us.
Keep in mind that these steps are just ways to consider should you decide to move on. And it is not a mandate to follow it all. One step is completely useful even without considering the others.
The only thing that matters here is our welfare. We should let go of whatever traps us in the dark abyss, and we should find our way to daylight. We do not win every day, but does it matter? Because at the end of the day, what truly matters is that we tried. So either you get up or sulk yourself more. You choose to fight or not! But remember, our demons and the pain will not go away on their own.
