What makes a man? Oh boy. That’s a tough one. If life came with a manual, maybe it’d be easier to say. But it doesn’t. And it isn’t. We go about our lives blindfolded, hoping to be in the right direction. Going straight could be sideways for some, and moving slow could be too fast for the rest.
So what indeed makes a man? Well, it isn’t sugar, spice, and everything nice. But who’s to say? Maybe we can talk about that some other time. It could also be snips and snails and puppy-dog tails. Although, that doesn’t sound too good either. There should be a formula for this by now.
However, being a man needs more than just random stuff and some Chemical X. Manhood can’t be grown from a test tube in a lab. Manliness doesn’t equate to how much (or less) sugar or table salt or masculinity you add to the equation. Being a man doesn’t mean you have to hide the kid in you. Being a man is accepting everything about yourself, even the kid version of yourself that you repressed so long ago.
Not all kids are the same too, you know. We know a certain ‘Kid’ who knows more than what he’s named after. There are certain men in this world that aren’t man enough for the job. Then there’s Kid Yambao. The man. The dude we can look up to. El hombre we admire. Le homme we just love. 𝘼𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙖𝙡𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙥𝙪𝙥𝙪𝙠𝙖𝙬 𝙨𝙖 𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜…𝙢𝙜𝙖 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨. But in a good way!
KID YAMBAO: THE MAN
Kid Yambao is definitely the personification of a good sport. He’s the chill boy-next-door and the responsible older brother. He has a face where a gorgeous face should be and has a passionate heart right there where hearts normally are. He’s basically a regular guy, doing regular stuff, rocking the most awesome job, and having the time of his life.
“Normal na araw para sa akin, gigising ako nang maaga. Konting stretching. ‘Tapos bababa. i-checheck ko ‘yung mga tao dito sa bahay, kung okay ba sila. Minsan ako magluluto, minsan naglilinis din ako. Gano’n kasi dito, kami-kami lang sa bahay.”
What makes Kid special and different from the rest? He’s a man who knows who he is. And he isn’t afraid to show it.
“Kasi ‘pag inisip mo ‘yung sinasabi ng mga tao, baka makalimutan mo kung sino ka o makalimutan mo maging masaya kung sa kanila ka susunod diba? Maganda kasi kung maniwala ka sa sarili mo.”
But the question still remains. What makes a man? Well, good thing Kid has an answer for that.
“Ang isang tunay na lalaki ay hindi nasusukat sa edad, kasarian, kulay, o antas ng buhay. Ang pagiging tunay na lalaki ay ‘yung committed ka na sa mga gagawin mo. ‘Yung tipong hindi ka takot ilagay ang sarili mo sa mga susunod na mangyayari, sa mga pagsubok. Mahirap pero hindi mo aatrasan. Gagawin mo ang lahat para sa pamilya, sa trabaho. ‘Yung wala kang pake sa sasabihin ng iba, ng society natin. Gagawin mo lang ‘yun. ‘Yung hindi ka takot sa lahat.”
He throws some pretty good points. A man can’t be defined just by what he is or where he’s from. A real man is more than his age, his gender, his heritage, or his place in life. He’s a sum total of all of those, and then some. Although, you get to wonder too. Can a man be defined by what he wears instead? Kid has something bold to say about that as well.
“Diba may kanya-kanya tayong personality and preferences? Ako kasi, lalaki ako. Pero kung manamit ako, choice ko minsan pambabae na clothing. So para sa akin, depende ‘yan sa kung ano ‘yung gusto mong suotin. Hindi naman porke’t sinasabing pambabae, strictly pambabae na ‘yan eh. Paano kung ‘yun ‘yung style mo diba? It’s more of kung paano mo siya dalhin, kung paano mo dalhin ‘yung sarili mo.”
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why Kid Yambao is the man. We kid you not when we say that Kid is wise beyond his years. Although, it’s easier said than done. However, Kid seems to walk his talk. Even as a celebrity, he tries to be his most genuine self. What we see is what we get, albeit a toned down version.
“Para sa akin, ako behind the camera and ako na sa harap ng camera, almost the same lang naman. Sa camera lang kasi, parang kailangan mo maging wholesome para matanggap ka ng tao. Kasi syempre, tao lang din naman ako. Nagmumura ako diba, nagagalit din ako. Naghaharot ako, nagiging makulit ako. Pero control lang ba. Gano’n kasi sa industry eh, kailangan mo maging mabait. Pero maganda kung magpakatotoo ka.”
With all things said, everything just boils down to consistency. A real man should know how to maintain his brevity for years to come. There will be ups, there will be downs. What’s important is how he rides the tide. For Kid Yambao, being a real man means being honest about yourself, being brave about your voice, and being content with who you are.
It sure was an uphill climb to get where he is now. The kid in him would be so proud.
“Sa younger self ko, tama ang mga pinagdaanan mo, tama ang mga desisyon mo. Maniwala ka sa sarili mo. Salamat dahil wala ako kung wala ka. At mahal na mahal kita. Salamat nang marami, Kid Yambao.”
What lies ahead for Kid? Even he doesn’t quite know. And that isn’t wrong either.
“Sa future na Kid Yambao, siguro sipagan mo pa, tatagan mo pa. Maniwala ka pa rin sa sarili mo. Bigay mo ‘yung best mo lagi. ‘Wag ka papatalo. ‘Wag ka makikinig pa rin sa mga sinasabi ng iba. Mahalin mo pa rin ang sarili mo. Sigurado naman ako ‘pag dumating Kid Yambao sa future, mas matibay ka na. ‘Wag ka lang mawawala sa linya at sa focus. Kaya mo abutin ang lahat. Maniwala ka sa sarili mo, Kid Yambao.”
What makes a man? From what we’ve talked about, a real man isn’t just a spawn of some calculated guesses and super-heated molecules. His qualities don’t come from a bottle. He isn’t brewed, baked, born, nor bonded either. To be a man, you need to persistently think beyond your own goals, your own wants, your own well-being. To reach that level of awesomeness, you must be someone who’s really true to yourself.
Someone who has to think beyond himself needs to be himself first. That’s what makes a man.
Publisher | Richie de Quina & Gwynn Crisostomo
Editor-in-Chief | Angela Baltan
PR & Advertising Manager | Josh Austria
Digital Manager | Allen Esteban
Words by Lord Harvey Monteroso
Photography by Kirby Guevarra Balagtas
Videography| Deo Gosmo
Grooming | Paige Seneres
Stylist | Kitkat Melo
Having graduated from Xavier University-Ateneo de Cagayan with a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, Lord Harvey Monteroso doesn’t shy away from using words to create visual images when he writes. He also makes sure to add humor with his in-depth analyses when writing movie/trailer/tv series/music video/song reactions and reviews.