I can’t help but resonate with Bella Poarch’s Build a Bitch

Let me make this personal for a second. I had only started regaining confidence and self-esteem with myself. I had only started loving the skin and the body that I reside in. It didn’t come naturally to me. And, it certainly did not come as an easy job. Sure, I’d tell you, my readers, and my friends to love your body as is. But, I acknowledge that it’s a whole damn process and I get that. I grew up with a whole lot of people – especially boys and men – telling me, “Maganda ka sana kaso maitim ka” or “Magpaputi ka naman para maraming magkagusto sa’yo.” This roughly translates to these boys and men telling me that people will like me more if I had lighter or fairer skin. For a little bit of context, I’m a melanin-gifted brown-skinned Filipina woman. And, to be honest, I felt so exhausted receiving those unnecessary and unsolicited remarks. That’s the main reason why I can’t help but resonate with Bella Poarch‘s Build a Bitch.

"Build a Bitch" MV — Mia Khalifa, Bella Poarch, Valkyrae, and Dina in “Build a Bitch” MV

That’s the main reason why I can’t help but resonate with Bella Poarch’s Build a Bitch.

Build a Bitch basically calls out men who expect women to be perfect as if we’re dolls designed for them. The setting of the music video shows a dystopian factory that creates men’s ideal women in a similar fashion to Build-A-Bear. Bella becomes one of the factory’s creations. In the video, she riots against this and sets all the other women in the factory free. The visual features multiple other social media stars that she has become friends with.

Of course, this includes fellow Filipinos – co-owner of 100 Thieves Valkyrae and the baddest bitch himself Bretman Rock. Aside from them, the cameos also include Larray, ZHC, Mia Khalifa, Dina, Sub Urban, and Rakhim. This song isn’t just any other song to Bella, she admitted on Twitter that this song means the world to her.

Dissecting the lyrics: the chorus.

The song geared toward the constant criticism that women receive about their bodies in the age of picture-perfect Instagram models. There’s no problem with said Instagram models. The fact that people refer to them as society’s definition of beauty gave them a bad name. Aside from that, I resonate with the song due to the fact that Bella described to herself as ‘filled with flaws and attitude.’ I have countless of flaws and a bitchy attitude that boys – and men – would point out. I have always known that I’m not perfect and I liked that about myself.

This ain’t Build a Bitch (A bitch)
You don’t get to pick and choose
Different ass and bigger boobs
If my eyes are brown or blue
This ain’t Build a Bitch (A bitch)
I’m filled with flaws and attitude
So if you need perfect, I’m not built for you (Yeah)

Dissecting the lyrics: the first verse.

This verse refers to men breaking women’s hearts and telling them that they’re not enough. Aside from that, it also pointed out that men would prefer curvy women with big boobs and a big ass… but, of course, no tummy. They would prefer a virgin woman who already knows how to pleasure them. As if a virgin woman would know how.

Bob the Builder broke my heart
Told me I need fixing
Said that I’m just nuts and bolts
Lotta parts were missing
Curvy like a cursive font
Virgin and a vixen
That’s the kind of girl he wants
But he forgot

Dissecting the lyrics: the second verse.

This verse made me laugh out loud. Because it’s the fucking truth. People, especially *some* men, go out of their ways just to make a woman feel bad. But, if you look at their social media profiles, they look busted, crusted, and definitely musted. They become so cruel on insulting a woman that you would think they’ve become heartless. They want a damsel in distress. That way, they can ride in to your life with a white horse and act as if they saved you. Like, dude, what?!?!?

Boys are always playing dolls
Looking for thеir Barbie
They don’t look like Kеn at all
Hardly have a heartbeat
Need someone who falls apart
So he can play Prince Charming
If that’s the kind of girl he wants
Then he forgot