Who should pay on the first date?

Modern dating has its complexities. The first issue that always arises is who should pay on the first date. Because it is the first time, there is that often-confusing period when you do not really know each other well enough to know what to do. But there is a way to maneuver through that perilous situation without compromising yourself or your date.

Men and women have different expectations before going on a date. Men expect that they will pay everything. Women, on the other hand, anticipate to pay their fair share or to split the bill.

Paying and chivalry

Most men insist on paying for the first and even subsequent dates. The older generation regards it as a chivalrous act. However, the old “man always pays” mentality is archaic. Some see it as a tacit assumption that women cannot pay or do not earn their own money.

Gender Pay Gap

Although some women are fine with splitting the bill, others prefer that men pay the entire amount. This is because of the gender pay gap. In fact, the Philippines is the only Asian country to rank among the top twenty on the Global Gender Gap Index 2021.

Benevolent Sexism

Benevolent sexism is the belief that women should be adored and treasured, as well as the paternalistic notion that they require men’s protection. As a result, many men feel guilty and obligated to pay for dates.

Who should really pay?

The most appropriate recommendation is that couples plan their dates based on their mutual affordability. This is done to eliminate gendered expectations about who should pay. Communication is also crucial to avoid complications during bill payment. Most importantly, don’t argue about it. It not only creates an awkward situation, but it may also leave a negative impression on each other.

After all, this is your first date. Let it not be the last.