I-SPLUK MO: The Toxicity of Spilling the Tea
“Spill the tea!”, is the new connotation that people of today use in simply asking for gossip. It might sound as fascinating as it is but it actually has a toxic trait we should start avoiding.
Romanticizing the way gossip is being circulated is like an illusion that makes it more decently passed through. Terms such as “i-spluk mo na!” and “what’s the tea?” is nothing different from those “Marites” continuously arising in today’s culture. It might be someone else’s source of vitamins and energy but it definitely should not be tolerated.
The “spill the tea” culture
An old saying that goes “If it’s not your story to tell, then you don’t tell it”, is such a simple comprehensive statement. Yet, we cannot deny the fact that there will always be people who will gossip about someone else’s own business. Now, there is this spilling of tea culture that is really rampant among almost everyone.
Do you always ask for tea? Then this article is definitely for you! Here are some reasons why spilling other people’s tea is considered toxic:
Destroys someone else’s self-confidence
Some people who bring up gossip about other people have the tendency of crossing the line. Some things that are meant to be kept by ourselves are somewhat shared in an indecisive manner. Certainly, we will never truly know about what the other side is currently dealing with. Spilling their teas could badly affect their self-confidence.
Makes the people involved anxious and uncomfortable
Who would not be shattered upon realizing that other people gossip about you, right? There occur the sleepless nights that would make you overthink their thoughts about you. Moreover, it was really difficult to handle one’s emotions whenever other people already built their prejudice against you.
Initiation of different versions of the truth
Whether the tea comes from a workmate, friends, acquaintances, or even family members, gossiping could be revised in any form. In gossiping, the people being talked about were always not given the benefit of the doubt. If we receive information from people that we highly trust, then definitely, it would be easy for us to believe them.
Wrecks healthy relationship
Many relationships were partly shattered due to gossiping. Trust could easily be ruined when confidentiality is broken. Given that gossiping could harshly lead to bullying, backstabbing, and blackmailing that makes other people feel attacked; then obviously it destroys a formerly healthy relationship.
Not every tea is meant for our consumption. Will you settle for a spilled tea, if in fact, you can have your own cup of it? Let’s not gossip! It’s more fun to take a sip of our own tea!
