I know you’re thinking it’s impossible. There are positive things about dating the wrong person? How come, right?
If we are still blinded by the grief and heartbreak caused by that person, we will most likely be unable to see the good things we have reaped from this negative experience.
Although traumas are real, and we don’t want to invalidate them, there is always good to come from a toxic relationship.
Remember, as cliché as it sounds, there is always a rainbow after the rain.
Things You Need in A Partner
Perhaps you might have eventually realized that you want someone who is very vocal about how much they love you, but your partner isn’t doing anything about it.
You will be able to tell if the relationship is lacking and not what you were looking for.
To put it another way, it will give you a better sense of what you really want, need, and deserve. When you’re with the wrong person, you’ll discover things you didn’t know you wanted in a partner.
And The Things You Don’t Want
And, of course, along with the things you crave in a relationship, you’ll soon realize what you don’t.
Perhaps the wrong person behaves in ways you do not want your partner to, or you are treated in ways you dislike. You learn all of this from the wrong person.
How Precious Your Time Really Is
When you think about it, you’ll realize how much time and effort you’ve invested, only to spend it in the wrong relationship.
And the lesson you’ll take away from it is to never do it again in the future. You’ll learn to value your time and make wise decisions about where and who to spend all of it in — your time, energy, and feelings.
The Wrong Person Will Make You Realize Your Worth!
The wrong person can make you feel inadequate, insecure, or otherwise negative about yourself, but it’ll also remind you of your worth.
You’ll finally see how much you don’t deserve of all the bad things you’re getting from that relationship.
You can still have happy recollections from being in a failed relationship with the wrong person.
But, of course, you’ve made good memories with the person in that relationship. It’s not always bad, and that’s true.
You once dreamed about things you wanted to do together and you actually had a fun time doing things you enjoy and talking to one another.
But it is not to invalidate the negative, but to be able to see beyond it. And it’s definitely not a reason to go back and settle in that wrong relationship all over again.
But it’s worth bearing in mind that no matter how much you’ve hurt each other, that person used to love you and be there for you. It’s comforting to think of it that way rather than the bad things.
You’ve hurt each other by staying in a relationship, but it ends there. You’re freed and ready to begin healing from your wounds and heartbreaks.
It’s not an easy process, and the road ahead is long and winding. But you’ll make it. Recognizing the positive lessons is already a big step in the right direction.
Joy Rencel loves writing feature stories about almost everything. She is on a quest to discover about life and how she can share it with the rest of the world through writing. She also enjoys her alone time, where she can catch up on her favorite series or simply obsess over interior design.