Gentle Parenting Tips from DongYan: Highlights in Ogie Diaz’s Vlog
Recently, Dingdong Dantes and Marian Rivera (DongYan) provided insights into their gentle parenting approach during a discussion in Ogie Diaz‘s vlog last December. The two ‘Rewind‘ stars’ wisdom on raising children and maintaining a strong bond was heartwarming and enlightening.
Parenting Tips from DongYan: Highlights in Ogie Diaz’s Vlog
DongYan, a well-known couple in Philippine showbiz, captures attention with their fame. Additionally, they take the spotlight as protagonists in ‘Rewind,’ the recent entry in the 2023 Metro Manila Film Festival (MMFF).
After shifting their focus to family life, the couple re-emerged into the limelight. They shared insights during the interview on how they actively manage both their household and family.
They define their dynamic with a reciprocal approach, emphasizing that there is no ‘superior one’ inside their marriage. Instead, they prioritize equality and mutual respect toward each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
Furthermore, if one person is fatigued and falls short in fulfilling their duties, the other steps in to take over. This principle not only applies to household chores but also extends to parenting their children.
Marian emphasizes the importance of parents not hesitating to apologize to their children when they realize their approach was ‘too much.’
She understands that there will be inconsistencies when it comes to parenting. This includes feeling overstimulated over concerning things which may affect the person’s mood.
So, she acknowledges that there are times when she unintentionally scolded Zia. In those instances, she took the proactive step of approaching her child and offering a sincere apology.
It’s crucial for parents to be able to recognize their mistakes and willingly admit when they are wrong. This enables them to offer sincere apologies and address any shortcomings.
“Huwag kayo matakot mag-sorry sa mga anak niyo. Hindi ibig sabihin na kapag nag-sorry kayo, nakalamang na anak niyo.
Hindi— dapat tayong mga magulang, kung alam nating mali [tayo], mismo tayong mag-admit. Para ‘yung bata kapag may kasalanan siya, hindi rin siya mahihiya o hindi siya maaalangan na mag-sorry para sa’yo,”
Marian Rivera in an interview with Ogie Diaz‘s vlog: Marian Rivera, na-shock! Ibinuko ni Dingdong Dantes! | Ogie Diaz
Furthermore, Dingdong agreed with Marian’s perspective. In his statement, he expounded that children mirror what they observe in their parents. So better to set a good example to the children.
Her statement illustrates her approach to disciplining their children, using gentle parenting techniques.
There might be preconceived notions about gentle parenting, assuming it solely involves being overly permissive and agreeing to all of a child’s desires resulting in a lack of discipline. However, an article from VeryWell Family emphasizes that this parenting technique focuses on empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries.
Much like Marian’s reaction when she overstepped her child’s boundaries by scolding, she took responsibility for her actions with empathy, offering a sincere apology as a sign of respect. Furthermore, she emphasized to her child the significance of acknowledging a mistake, aiding her child’s understanding of the consequences of her actions.
Taking such steps will reduce potential resentment in the future and foster greater understanding between the parent and the child.
Furthermore, when it comes to parenting, Marian and Dingdong demonstrate unity in their approach to disciplining their children.
In some marriages with children, one partner (or both, interchangeably) takes on the role of a disciplinarian, while the other takes on the role of a non-disciplinarian parent. The first individual enforces discipline and corrects the child’s behavior, while the other provides support for the child.
In contrast to that, the DongYan couple typically avoids following that technique, as they unite when it comes to parenting. This collaborative approach enhances the effectiveness of discipline, reinforcing accountability in their children.
Dingdong openly admitted in the interview that when their children seek support from him, he often responds with tenderness. Although mostly, he doesn’t directly participate in disciplining, he actively refrains from expressing dissatisfaction with Marian to prevent their children from developing negative feelings towards their mother.
This segment of the interview vlog illustrates the realism in their parenting approach, as they openly discuss both the positive and negative aspects of raising their children. Furthermore, it’s truly fascinating to witness how parents like them adeptly apply gentle parenting techniques, aiming to prevent the imposition of any childhood traumas on their children.
