Things We Can Learn from the KathNiel Split
For days, the news of the KathNiel breakup has been buzzing across the internet. Amid hearsay, I’ve found alleged accounts sharing different perspectives after Kathryn Bernardo confirmed the love team’s separation.
Furthermore, I can’t help but ponder some lessons we can learn from them, whether we’re a fan of them or not.
Relationship Takeaways We Can Learn from the KathNiel Split
The news disheartened many fans who considered KathNiel as their childhood love team. And so, it becomes evident that love and longevity alone may not suffice to sustain a relationship.
As cliché as it may sound, you can only keep a man if he genuinely desires to be kept.
Being a complete package with all the desirable attributes may not guarantee the longevity of a relationship. The only way to keep one is to have someone who also wants to be with you.
A relationship is a mutual journey that requires the collective efforts of both parties to thrive. Furthermore, the essentials in a relationship are love, respect, and trust. Once one is lost, it can lead to the relationship crumbling.
People come and go, and that’s okay.
In relationships, there are individuals we naturally outgrow. This process extends beyond seasonal friendships and can also be observed in romantic connections. Furthermore, developing significant differences (such as goals and values) over time can cause us to outgrow any relationship— and that is okay.
You can discover many individuals in the world with whom you share agreement most of the time. Even with some differences, it’s possible to navigate and make the relationship work harmoniously.
Their infidelity isn’t a reflection of you; don’t be too hard on yourself about it.
“That happened to me before. At si Kathryn pinatawad ako. Nagkamali ako before. I was a kid. I was stupid. And still tinanggap niya ako, tinanggap niya ako ng buo,”
Daniel Padilla via ABS-CBN News, interviewed by Boy Abunda, who posed a hypothetical question about whether Daniel could forgive Kathryn if she were to betray him.
In Tito Boy‘s 2021 interview, Daniel openly acknowledged making ‘that’ mistake and how Kathryn forgave him for it. Looking at it through her lens, that must have been a difficult experience for her to handle.
Furthermore, when someone betrays your trust, it’s not a reflection on you. It will never be your fault, as those individuals made a conscious decision to commit infidelity.
They had the choice to fix and work things out, but they chose the latter. Let them do what they want for you to see where you stand in their life. Then, you can decide whether to keep the relationship or not.
The years spent together cannot guarantee that they’ll be your end game.
Numerous factors can contribute to people not choosing each other, and whatever the reason may be, it is always valid. As mentioned earlier, some couples simply outgrow each other.
Nevertheless, there are situations where individuals may find it challenging to endure disrespect within the relationship. This can lead to a perception that the relationship is no longer as fulfilling as it once was, or it may think that their choice to stay in the relationship is no longer beneficial for their well-being.
Remember, opting for self-prioritization is always a victory. The foundation of long-term relationships lies in the mutual choice of choosing each other through challenges. However, if there is constant disrespect, prioritize your well-being and choose to save yourself.
You can always radiate brilliance on your own, without needing anyone by your side. You’ve been shining for years, even before meeting them, and you can continue to do so after parting ways. Furthermore, you can leverage the lessons learned within the relationship to propel yourself forward in life— isn’t that a victorious outcome?
