We Become a Memorial of the Person We No Longer Have
I’ve mentioned in my previous article about the idea that when we lose somebody, we become their memorial. And in correlation with that, I decided to dig deeper to explore its full sense. So, this time, allow me to tell a narrative about all the people we no longer have. And the memories that still remain.
A social relationship is one of the human needs that each one of us is worth having, regardless of our age, gender, identity, or race.
We all have this idea of perfection when it comes to our relationships with our friends, lovers, or even family. We all have this type of vivid imagination wherein everything seems so right. But, in real life, having a happy relationship with anyone takes a lot of compromises.
We rely so much on our social lives that we already find it so important to always have this sense of connection and belongingness. That’s why, when we end a certain relationship, especially with someone who had a big part in our lives, we feel like we lack something. When you lose somebody, you also lose that associated meaning and idea of what a relationship feels like. The bottom line is: you feel like you also lose half of who you are.
WE’RE A MEMORIAL THAT BREATHES AIR
There might be things that don’t work out in the past, or certain friends or lovers who are no longer with us now. But the way we reminisce those moments with them will make us feel that; Yes, they may no longer be with us now but through these memories, they’re still here. It will forever become our reminder that once in our lives we experienced being with them. We become their memorial.
It’s so true that nothing is really permanent in this world. The things that you have now may no longer be yours tomorrow. The people that you’re taking for granted now may soon realize how valuable and worthy they are. And just like a thin air on a crisp autumn night, they’ll disappear. We should always keep in our mind how fragile our lives can be. We should always allow ourselves to love, accept, and appreciate all the big and little things we still have. You’ll never know the exact amount of time you’ll have with them, or they have you.
Being with someone doesn’t just only require love and physical touch. More than that, all we need is an extra level of appreciation and gratitude. I hope that life will humble us to realize that in life, nothing lasts forever. And we should bound ourselves for all the things that will allow us to grow and see life and relationship in a bigger picture.
If you choose to have the best quality time with someone, and you love them the best way you know how you’ll never go wrong. If one day you’ll lose them, there will still be heartaches and grief. But life still goes on after that. Moreover, you’ll be reminded that when someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes your treasure.
