Prepping for Intimate, Memorable Date Night
Keeping your sex life spicy and intimate can be a challenge if you’re in a long-term relationship. After a certain point in any couple’s life together, attraction can wane, and sexual chemistry—compromised as a result.
But the important thing to remember is that this doesn’t automatically spell the end. There are so many things you can do to put the intimate sizzle back in your bedroom, from buying a sex machine to getting couples therapy. If you’re not at that point yet, consider scheduling special date nights where the full focus would be on sensuality.
Here are some ideas that you can adopt to your preferences so that you’ll both be feeling sexy again in no time.
- Come up with a fantasy scenario that will turn both you on. Have you ever fantasized about picking up a stranger in a bar? Or maybe the idea of having sex in front of a wide-open window where anyone can see you is titillating? Communicate your desires and use the power of your combined imaginations to explore your sexuality in scenarios that are out of the ordinary.
- Watch a sexy movie together that’s not porn. You need to be aroused mentally so you can be fully in the moment with your partner. Check out some classic erotica films and let yourself be seduced by the magic of cinema.
- Open up a bottle of scented oil and give each other sensual massages. No, you don’t need to have professional masseuse or masseur skills to enjoy this little experiment. In fact, the whole point of it is to do some very unprofessional touching and fondling. Set the mood in your bedroom by dimming the lights and playing some relaxing instrumental music while letting your sense of touch guide your intimate roaming hands.
- Start the seduction early by sexting. If you know that you’ve got a sexy date night planned, build up the excitement throughout the day by exchanging flirty messages, images, or videos. Tease each other to ramp up the anticipation. More importantly, this would also help get you in the mood for the night to come.
- Dress up in each other’s favourite looks. Do you find your partner particularly attractive when they’re wearing formal clothes, or do you prefer them looking more casual? Make the effort to tailor your appearance to your partner’s preferences so you can look like a tasty snack they’d want to devour.
Be on the same page
It’s very important for both of you to be open with each other emotionally throughout this whole process. You need to communicate exactly what you need so your efforts to reconnect would be successful.
Most of all, understand that keeping a relationship healthy is a life-long task that you both need to work on and there are no magic bullets that can immediately fix issues. If you keep working together every day, then you can build a strong foundation of love and companionship that can last.
