To my future boyfriend, here’s what you need to know about me

Everyone wants a not so perfect but a stable relationship with someone. Well, who wouldn’t? Finding someone whom you’d share your life with is such a big risk. Letting your boyfriend know your life and the whole you is another big thing.

And so to my future boyfriend, here’s what I want you to know about me. 

Some say I am a woman with a lot of personality. A simple woman who has a lot of flaws and imperfections. I make a lot of mistakes, to which taught me to be who I am today.

So let’s start with the idea of me being an ultimate hopeless romantic one. I’ve been through a lot, yet I still believe in genuine love. My good friends can attest to that. Being called as the most “marupok” in my circle of friends lies a lot of stories I won’t dare to share. #MalingTao

As a wonderer, I like to discover and learn things on my own. I remember back then, my mom always tells me that I don’t need a boyfriend since I am independent woman. What I always do was to always ignore her because hello? I don’t want to get old not being flexed on social media! Kidding. (#ForTheClout)

To my future boyfriend, please know that I am a kind of woman who “talks a lot”. I guess this is me as an ambivert one. I am fond of sharing stories even the most nonsense one. This may sound a bit dominant, but I really make sure that whenever I’m sharing something, someone listens. I easily get annoyed when I feel like you ain’t interested with what I’m talking.

Physical touch and words of affirmation is my love language. I easily get so attached with moments I am most happy with. I like hugs so much, that it actually has the power to take my anger away in just a snap.

Complementing and expressing things is also my thing. I want a relationship with no lies and secrets on the side. A boyfriend who communicates and understands me, may it be in good or bad times.

Boy, I am so loud. This is for real, so I want you to bare with my very annoying and loud laugh. I easily cry and laugh over simple things. I also am so silly at times. Worst is, I sometimes do dumb things I regret in the end. I want you to understand that side of me.

Now here’s the most important thing: Respect is a god-tier green flag for me. I have so much respect to everyone around me, most especially to my mom. And I also expect the same thing from my boyfriend. 

I wanted a boyfriend and a man full of respect to every significant person in his life. A relationship founded with respect builds so much trust, safety and comfort. It allows us to value and encourage one another most especially at times where setbacks arise.

I’m not in a rush, not anymore.

As I grow old, I have so many realizations in terms of love. I probably did learn a lot of things to come up with lists I want my future boyfriend to know. After series of trials and heartaches, I learned that love doesn’t actually takes time; rather, love makes time. 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

1-Corinthians 13:4-8

I want someone who would be my bestfriend at the same time. A future one whom I will find peace, security, and genuine love. A not so perfect relationship but with freedom to growth and learn with each other. 

Every woman deserve to be treated by their boyfriends the way they should be treated. To experience that genuine love each of us deserves. Today, a lot of people do have their endless stories abour love. Yet, love will forever be a risk worth the wait.

And so to my future boyfriend, I will wait for that right time to be with you. I am so excited to create wonderful memories with you!