In a world filled with “sana all,” I realized being single isn’t bad after all

In a world filled with SANA ALL, I trained myself not to fall. I trained myself not to fall into a trap where everyone likes the rush to be in a relationship. It may be considered lucky for those people who find ‘the one’ in that kind of way. However, for those who are still looking for the loves of their lives, I have one thing to say – don’t rush. I am sure that everything will end up, according to plan. And, if not, there’s a plan B (and the rest of the letters in the alphabet).

At the age of 23, I am enjoying the life of being single. I have always observed how couples brought pain to each other and recently, my fear reached its peak. I won’t deny, I would witness partners who are absolutely great with each other. They’re the ones who would make you go ‘goalz!’ I’d catch myself drawing that in my mind. However, my goal-oriented self pushed me to focus where my priorities lay.

In a world filled with “sana all,” I realized being single isn’t bad after all

My goal-oriented self wanted me to find a job, make money, and give my family a comfortable life before having a family of my own. Honestly, my parents, brothers, and other relatives took part in me staying single. I have a strict family and they have their rules when it comes to me entertaining suitors. Of course, it only comes in one sentence, “No diploma, no boyfriend allowed.”

Instead of opposing them, I think their strictness regarding my romantic life was entirely understandable. It means that I can focus on my studies, remain inspired as opposed to the people distracted by their relationships to even focus on their priorities. So, I consider my family as an inspiration to stay single and to reach my goal. It may sound boring to others, but it’s actually quite fine.

Plus, I still find kilig moments with my celebrity crushes and by watching Korean dramas.

Aside from that, I can take myself out on dates – without worrying about paying such a big price for two people. I can spend all my earnings on someone who deserves it – myself. I mean, I worked hard for it, why not? I have work to occupy me, aside from focusing on my studies. I have to buy my own needs and wants. I find happiness in giving my parents my own hard-earned money. Then, there are my friends with who I can watch movies, have dates, and hang out. There are also my niece and nephews, making me live my Tita life as I shower them with gifts and treats.

I exchange I love yous with my family and friends. Although there are still things that a romantic relationship can give me that my family and friends cannot, I don’t plan on being alone forever. I am just taking my first steps on the stairs. I’ll be in that step where I can allow myself to feel butterflies. Actually, never mind that. I don’t want to feel butterflies in my stomach. I don’t want to get nervous whenever I see that person. I want to feel safe, secured, and warmly comforted.

For now, I’ll allot my time on my priorities first. Because as I am still young and I don’t need a boy, I need a man. And on my way to my goals, I’ll meet him there. Besides, to all the single persons out there, I know you will meet that one who will stop you from saying ‘sana all’. And will finally say ‘at last’.